This is Part III of my continuing summer series suggesting parents of children and adolescents take on the role of their child’s Safety Coach with an eye toward taking a giant step to ensure that he or she will return to school next September physically in one piece and psychologically intact.

Down the line I will set you up with some great suggestions on exactly how to maximize your role as caring, disciplined, and protective parent.  I have posted many times on the concept in the past, and, if you wish, you can scan backwards and read one or three of them.  Being a Safety Coach is not only a rewarding undertaking, it can strengthen your relationship with your spouse and your child.  Do it right, it can be lots of fun, too.


A crucial part of being your child’s Safety Coach is providing support, encouragement, and promoting self confidence.  No matter which of the following vital skills you decide to teach your child, it’s important to understand that “high levels of self-doubt accompany thoughts of protecting ones-self,” according to Raising Kids Who Can Protect Themselves.  However, on the other hand, “high levels of blind belief (Of course I’ll find a way) and a solid, confident attitude (Failing is not an option)” result from loving teaching and support and a (loving) Family Defense Plan.

And, parents, one more thing:  I am going to suggest a Safety and Survival Curriculum that you can teach your child this summer.  These vital skills are going to be the foundation of his or her ability to escape and evade the Chicken Hawk (child sexual predator) and/or to stand up to the neighborhood bully, which is nice, don’t you think?  But here’s the thing:  For your child to truly have a chance against a recidivist, violent, and deadly child predator and even the pesky bully he or she must have the willingness to do whatever he or she must do to come back to you in one piece!

I repeat.  Being willing is much more important to safety and survival than the ability (skills and tactics).  Hopefully you can help your child with both.

So much for instilling self-confidence and the will to fight.  I am going to start with the vital self-defense skills that any parent/coach should think of, at least as far as I am concerned:

  1. Understanding and trusting his or her “Spidey Senses (Gut-Instincts).”
  2. “Combat (Cycle) Breathing.”
  3. Positive Self Talk
  4. Maintain and Protect Space.
  5. Do Something!
  6. Tactical Movement.
  7. Predator-Specific Tactics.
  8. Bully-Specific Tactics.
More on these in the next post.  General self-defense tactics and strategies.

Until then, Stay Safe.


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