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Comment on SAVING YOUR CHILD FROM THE SEXUAL PREDATOR by Hammer

Hammer — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 16:06:04 +0000

Thank you for your kind words. Helps me to keep writing about this important survival issue.

Hammer

Comment on SAVING YOUR CHILD FROM THE SEXUAL PREDATOR by Alize Karpinski

Alize Karpinski — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 04:29:30 +0000

Thanks so much for the blog.Really thank you! Want more.

Comment on Parents: You can Teach Your Child Bully-Be-Gone Tactics by Hammer

Hammer — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 03:18:41 +0000

Might could be a good strategy, but we are talking about bullying here. Usually child-to-child, teen-to-teen. Overkill, I’d say.

Comment on Parents: You can Teach Your Child Bully-Be-Gone Tactics by Go for the eyes

Go for the eyes — Tue, 10 Jan 2012 19:44:47 +0000

Leave one intact so the bully knows they got what they deserved every time they look in the mirror.

Comment on Parents: You can Teach Your Child Bully-Be-Gone Tactics by Jennie

Jennie — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 11:37:32 +0000

Hi!

Thanks for the info. It helps me a lot in understanding this matter. It’s important to take bullying seriously and not just brush it off as something that kids have to “tough out.” The effects can be serious and affect kids’ sense of self-worth and future relationships.

Cheers!

Comment on Parents: You can Teach Your Child Bully-Be-Gone Tactics by Hammer

Hammer — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 23:02:10 +0000

Simon, I have thought long & hard on your query & it is indeed a tough one to answer. At the risk of sounding over-simplistic, I’d say that, first of all, I doubt very much that whatever and however you teach your son, you cannot and will not “create” a bully. That nature might not be within him, although I know from my youth that almost any child can bull another when prodded by other peers and when that child is perceived to be weaker and more vulnerable BY your son. I have posted numerous monographs on http://www.actionagainstviolence.com, and, of course, http://www.keepschoolssafe.net on how to teach one’s child how to protect themselves against sexual predators and, of course, schoolyard and neighborhood bullies. And indeed you are correct: you have to keep your training fun and unintimidating. There are “games” and “scenarios/role plays” you can do with your son. “What if” Games, like “son, here is the situation, now, what would you do if that happened?” Monitor his answers and, without being judgmental, amend his solution to the problem. Act out the role of the bully and have him respond physically.
This is tough, as I said earlier, because there are a series of responses I would look for based on the approach by the bully. But the sad truth is, sir, and I think you know this, based upon your experience with Krav Maga and training men: a young man’s WILLINGNESS to fight (back) is far more important than that youngster’s ABILITY to fight (back).
I guess what I am saying is that you and I can teach your son the techniques, tactics, strategies, and even principles of “Fighting Winology,” but it would be hard for me to inculcate and install within him the heart and the willingness to achieve winology. However, as his father, I think you can do that.

If you would like somehow to continue this dialog, you can contact me at harrywigder@rcn.com, which is my email address, and I will try to assist you with this. I mean, this probably doesn’t help at all, but what I might teach children who wished to repel bullying, all the way from 5 to 15 is:
(1) Hang out with other kids, hopefully friends (bullies attack loners).
(2) Have a plan of action ( if he’s been bullied before, he knows what to expect; how he will be approached, what the bully will say).
(3) Mentally rehearse the attitude/psyche that “Hey, Dude, I aint going to take your crap any more.
(4) BELIEVE you will resist and put-down the bully. Understand that you might get hurt, but that will soon pass. Nothing, however, will sting as long and as deep as allowing yourself to be humiliated).
(5) When approached, take a deep breath (cycle-breathe) and tell yourself you have the ability to escape and evade this bully.
(6) Assume an “athletic” Ready-Stance, but do not put hands in “boxer-stance.” Relaxed hands above hip-high.
(7) Have a prepared verbal statement.
(8) Maintain your PSZ (Personal Safety Zone). If and when the bully tries to encroach, use a J-Step to re-assume a good reactionary-gap of 5 to 6″
(9) Th erest are physical moves when verbal denial and distance do not work. Escape by using a Hip Rotation Move or an Elbow-Joint Spin and walk through the “open door.”
(10) Or, failing that, bring the hands up as if saying “please don’t hurt me (palms out fingers moving),” but, when the bully least expects it, launch a couple palm-heel strikes from those open hands.

Hope this helps.

hammer

Comment on Parents: You can Teach Your Child Bully-Be-Gone Tactics by Simon

Simon — Sun, 18 Dec 2011 14:04:43 +0000

Hey Hammer.
I have a little problem I really hope you can help?
Last weekend I was with my son in the park and he was getting along with the other kids just fine untill a much smaller and younger child ran up to him, grabed him by the head and forced him into the ground. As an ex-bodyguard myself I waited to see the reaction my son would take to this attack. To my suprise he did not react at all, but knelt on the ground and began to cry. Unfortunatly my boy and i dont live together but after explaining the situation to his mother, she has agreed to allow me to begin training with him.
For some years now I have been teaching Krav Maga to other Bodyguards and some millitary personel. Yet when it comes to my own son I have hit a bit of a wall as to how I even begin his training. You see hes only 6 years old and even though I have the knowlage bace to teach him how to protect himself I have never taught a child before. The major problem i have is, I need to keep training fun to keep him interested, but I dont want to promote Fighting as being fun to him, as Im rather fearful of “creating” a bully myself if he is of the belief it is fun to fight.
Hammer I could really use some guidance right about now… Any information as to where to start with someone so young would be a big help… many thanks.
Simon.

Comment on Parents: You can Teach Your Child Bully-Be-Gone Tactics by Hammer

Hammer — Thu, 01 Dec 2011 03:51:26 +0000

Thank you for your thought provoking response to my post. IK appareciate it & I found the link awesome

Thanks

Hammer

Comment on Parents: You can Teach Your Child Bully-Be-Gone Tactics by Sheena Smith

Sheena Smith — Wed, 30 Nov 2011 18:17:32 +0000

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Comment on TWO MORE LITTLE VICTIMS OF BULLYING HANG THEMSELVES! by Hammer

Hammer — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 23:14:00 +0000

Thank you for your comment Mr Moore. There is no answer to your question, save to say these children did nothing to no one. But I think in the long run the bullies need some help, too. These are acts that our society long has believed to be “natural,” or “normal” kid stuff. But the acts are sociopathic acts that often lead the bullies to acts of violence as adults that cast them into the criminal justice system. What goes around comes around, they say, and it is true. Doesn’t make it right, though.

Thanks for commenting.

Hammer